what kind of boss are you? week #69 baby!

What about that trendy caption is true and what does it mean? BOSS. Professionally, I am a Boss.  Personally, I am a Boss, of me, and working on being a  good Boss of me.  So I guess you could say I am a Professional Boss since I have been proactive at improving my boss skill level. Just like any other thing in life, knowledge is always power, so knowing more about how to be a better boss could only enhance or possibly help morph you into what you want to be. At least that is what I am hoping and believing. I am thinking some people interpret boss as taking control of things, some use boss as a a slogan to create internal power, some use boss meaning you are a manager of people. In either scenario I think a good question would be is what KIND of Boss are you being? I have worked for some really great bosses and some really crappy bosses. I have worked with some really inspiring bosses and some really demeaning bosses. I am lucky because the majority has been positive. I grew up around parents who were both bosses at work. So you could say I have always been around a boss. Perhaps why I have boss mentality. 

"I am a huge fan of slogans, statements, and the power of positivity. What is your personal fav?"

I think being in charge of children makes you think about being a boss and entails many boss duties. I think being a boss at work with adults forces you to interact and deal with many types of people and personalities. I think being a boss of you puts you in charge of all your actions so now you have to take responsibility for you. At least this is how I see the skeletal part of being a boss. The other part of boss  I will define as "the implementation of your character on people". A boss is a person right? You could say a boss is a leader, an organizer, a delegator, and is responsible for the outcomes of things. What is a good boss? Well if I had to write  a resume it might look something like communicates well, good at teamwork, motivates people, works well in stressful situations, good leadership skills, good listener, proactive, good at conflict-resolution, promotes positive environment, supportive of peers, looking to advance self, others and said company. I have been able to develop these "skills" professionally and they have really helped me grow as a human being as well. However, as I journey through my self-help mode I am having many boss moments and reconfiguring how I look at the term boss.

"Do what you gotta do to make it happen and be the best version of you!"

I am a hip hop fan so sometimes I envision Rick Ross making it rain $100 bills with the caption "Boss".  It is a fun thought but my thought was, what really backs up that picture and makes it solid quality? If we equate it to money, we could say well it takes sweat and grind and decisions to make those millions, right?  I am not sure, I don't have a million, yet, but that is what I am thinking. Now if you want to be Happy and have Millions, I would imagine it would take sweat and grind and decisions AND the building and growth of personal character to attract this happiness into your life and to be able to create it internally within you? Yes that sounded good!
Point is, we are all bosses and would't it be great if we could all be good bosses of everything including ourselves?  Many times I have not treated myself with kindness and understanding and love. These key elements were what was really missing in my professional life which I realized I needed to develop. I had the technical side down, because yeah you can't show up to work late over and over and over and not finish projects and talk nasty to people and still think that you will have a job, right? So why would that not pertain to how you manage yourself? This was my aha moment. I had the technical side down, you know the routine stuff day to day, but i severely lacked in what kind of Boss I was being to myself. Where is all this going? I will explain...

​Cancer struck like lightening. Now there were 44 years that were all soaked in my body that needed to be rerouted, relearned, and some things just plain rid of. A broken me from life and steering myself in the wrong directions, acting out of fear, and loads of negative perceptions. I do believe everything happens for a reason. So I can also look at life and say holy crap I sure have experienced a lot and I am thankful for all my experiences and the people that have been in my life. That being said, I still drive this boat Tami style which means "go all in and do it big and make it worth it!"  That saying has gotten me into trouble in the past, but the future of that statement is leading me to even greater things than I could have ever imagined. Being a Good Boss of Me has been a true declaration of living life to the fullest, believing in myself, and taking the time to really "do the work" to understand me and how to make me better both physically and mentally and not backing down or giving into the norm or the perception of what others think or say i should do no matter what the situation, in other words, stick to your guns! Holy run on sentence! Don't tell anyone I work at a University! 

My 2017 slang definition of Boss is: A human being that has developed themselves spiritually, emotionally, and physically which enables them to connect with the world and live a life of prosperity. A true boss is compassionate, supportive, a good  listener,  treats people equally, and respects  all things living. The essence of a Boss oozes into daily life and spreads  positive energy which helps create freedom for us all. #iamboss

I would also like you to know that This Boss :) had a mammogram, ultrasound, mri, 2 needle mri biopsies all in the month of December. My boobs ARE still here, and they will continue living with cancer cells for as long as they stay situated in one place and don't spread. :) Thanks for listening, caring, and taking time out of your life to read my blog.

​XO Tami