#metoo?

Yes I am a feminist at the core. Yes I want to support and build a community of strong women. Yes I want to speak my mind. Yes I want to feel good. Yes I believe we are all free to do what we want and believe what we want. This is what is at the core of EVERY human being. Not just women. 


I want these ideas for men as well. My perspective on this issue has expanded throughout the decades but it always comes back to the same thing when I look and evaluate and ponder… We all have experienced the lack of… self-esteem & self-worth, we seek approval & have doubted our SELF throughout our lifetime. I don’t care who you are AND if you say No I have not, I believe you have. If you have ever felt a “not good” feeling you have likely experienced a deviation from your soul/spirit which is WHO you really are in this universe. It’s not bad, it’s just what happens because we are human. 


As I have also said before, we are all doing the very best we can at every moment in time based on what we know. I believe this without a doubt. Does it mean I want to be around you all the time, no. Is that ok. Yes. I look at life as seasonal, we change and expand all the time. Our life and bodies are ever changing. We have good feelings and bad feelings and they guide us through life. We have contrast  to push us to where we want to be and towards what we desire. We REALLY do have POWER over our SELF since we have the power to essentially control our MINDS and our ACTIONS and our INTERACTIONS. If you don’t believe me, when was the last time someone told you to do something and you did it? Why did you do it? You didn’t have to. You chose to. 


It’s time we start steering our own life and retraining our brain so we move in a direction that feels good. It’s time to take responsibility for our SELF and build a STRONG ME so we have fewer and fewer incidents throughout our life that could get us into some not so good feeling type of situations. Laws of the universe indicate what you vibrate is what you attract and what is going on in your life is simply displaying where YOU are at in your own life. So next time you aren’t feeling so hot in a situation ask yourself where you are in YOUR life before you put energy into blaming externally because that “picture moment” is projecting exactly what is going on internally with you.  The YOU that got YOU where YOU are in this very moment. Don’t beat yourself up wit you don’t like it, realize it is happening to push you towards where you want to be.


It took me years of unsuccessful relationships, a past with traumatic incidents, social difficulties, family disconnections, and cancer to kick my SELF into high gear to really understand what was going on with me. What had I been doing, thinking, believing, and acting in order for me to have such rockiness in my life. The most freeing part is that I did it all, the good and the not so good. I did it. The other most freeing part was it is all in the past and today is a new day. I do not live by the past anymore. I live today on. For me, a quick look at past situations has allowed me to understand myself better and be more gentle and compassionate towards myself which has allowed me to grow and expand past where I was,  in holding patterns for years. HOWEVER, If I ever dig deep into my past again I know it is just to quickly take a look and let go rather than hold on for dear life. I am not a victim and I am not a villain. I am a  fun and vibrant soul that has a body that is strong and a mind that is capable of more than I ever thought possible. In fact, this is everyone. 


Everyone has a part in #metoo. We all have the responsibility to be the best we can based on our own personal desires. Its ok to be selfish and get your self together. THEN you have enough and can be enough to really give to others and give to the world. Each day you replenish and keep refilling your self, then giving to others. This is the only way to get and stay in alignment with yourself so we can all live good lives. This is how we can all get along. This is how we can all think of each other as equals no matter what. This is how we can truly be divine.


So we all have a story in #metoo and it starts with our own SELF. 

When I started my self-healing cancer journey 2 1/2 years ago I never knew it would have evoked so many emotions, catapulted me into the biggest self-expansion to date, enhanced my daily living and happiness, help me really heal my self from my self, and never in a million years would I have grown to really know myself so well. It's like I am discovering who I really am for the first time. I am so appreciative at this eyes wide open approach and proud to say I did it and will continue to do it! have eliminated my victim of #metoo and never accepted that I could be part of a stereotypical statistic. These years of contrast have allowed me to seek self healing that feels good for me no matter what. NO MATTER WHAT. Ley me say it again, NO MATTER WHAT. The biggest advantage I have now is that I steer my life based on Me and NOTHING else. I am not heartless, just a big heart that is READY. 

My dad always woke us girls up by saying " rise and shine". I would get annoyed. Today I think  it is the best saying ever. My dad is always so cheery in the mornings and loves to cook breakfast. He has always had his own way to start the day right. I can finally say #metoo. Thanks Dad. 



#mystory continues and thanks to all who have been interested or followed my endeavors and new thoughts and beliefs and action- i have had so many conversations with people to date and am amazed at how a journey can open up so many cans of worms ( in a good way) - it truly has been a circle of love and I feel lucky to be part of this whole experience

Much love- Tami xo