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It was all a set up…

3/24/2019

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So I have been taking a yoga & meditation class and a sound healing class. The 4 week excursion has turned into even more learning, aha moments, peace, balance, bumps, and possibly a bit of levitation. The mission is to achieve physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. I am going for the happiest and healthiest version of me so this seemed to be the right fit for me now. Most recently in one of our discussions with the teacher she mentioned our “attachments” as human beings. It really got me thinking. Hence, I write a another blog post.

My mission now is recognizing my attachments and how to detach if they are not serving me well. I realized that some of my sadness comes from letting go of loved ones and realizing that as independent as I have been my whole life, I was pretty dependent on people close to me as a source of confidence and approval. Yuck. It was a set up for failure and feeling bad and helped harness unhealthy relationships with others and myself.  I understand the depths of how it contributed to me not being my authentic self and created a lot of self dislike. Perhaps some hatred.

The brutally honest version would be I have lived in fear of not being enough most of my life and this whole process of transforming myself that was spawned by cancer has been about connecting with myself, being ok with myself, believing in myself, loving myself, and being able to truly do these things by myself. These attachments to peoples, places, things are facades of the truth about ourselves until we can achieve it without anybody or anything but what resides within ourselves. We often to look to these alternative "things" as a means of instant gratification but in the end that's where they remain. Nothing instant in my experience has ever really tasted good or been any kind of "quality". Over the long term these attachments fester into a false sense of self. A not knowing one self. And really not knowing the alternative.

The 2 closest people in my life are no longer “here for me” in the same way and the ugliness of this attachment issue has been exposed! I can’t say it’s a bad thing cuz it is pushing me to address all aspects of me and really dig deep into my mind, body, and soul.  This is a push to continue healing from the roots, plant new seeds, and carry on with life in a new way. A healthy way. I never really saw it this way but to me it makes total sense and I now have clarity. I my case, the more I understand  the better I seem to progress with my life and as a human. These attachments are just that, nothing else. It is up to me to detach. I get it now. I did not know. My bad, but now my good. Yay for me. Yay so my brain stops having crazy thoughts. And yay to figuring out the puzzle so I can get these emotions out and move on.

I really can’t believe my life the past 4 years. So many twists, turns, opening cans of worms, taking out the trash, so many emotions, so many people, so many magical moments realized, so much more in the moment, more meaningful relationships with people, more fun, more sad, more sunlight, more darkness, so much appreciation, so much love. It’s like a movie when I look back and a movie that I now view in real time. These movies are no longer my reality. Right here, right now is my reality and what comes next is my reality. The universe has done it’s magic and it was all a set up to get here, now, and on to the next. I am thankful.


Thx for listening-


Tami xo



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    Tami Herbst xo

    It's a long story.
    I have documented parts of my Cancer Journey starting in November 2015.

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